There’s been a lot of negative posts around the interwebs recently about parenting and how people perceive things they come across in modern day life. This led me to start thinking about how I’d take this information if I was thinking about having kids for the first time. So I decided to put this short post together.
So, assuming you have the basics (saved up a bit of money, a house safe enough and some local support you can rely on) here’s 10 things I’d tell you if you asked me today:
- You won’t regret it.
- It will radically change your life and will show you the true meaning of hard work, but you will have never done something so highly rewarding.
- Even on the hard days (when you feel like tearing your hair out or smashing up half your house) you still turn to your partner and say how beautiful they are.
- The second you see them for the first time you know how lucky you are. It’s utterly overwhelming and has helped change me to become a stronger, more focused person.
- It makes you realise how important you are and much you mean to your parents. This is something every parent I know fundamentally agrees on and highlights once again how lucky we all are.
- It will test your relationship with your partner to the highest level, but ultimately makes you stronger and more resilient than ever.
- It is the ultimate purpose in life. If you’ve ever felt like you don’t know who you are supposed to be, this answers the question.
- You will acquire organisational skills of the highest order!
- The mental test of being a parent has been the hardest part for me. I regularly feel like I’m about to ‘explode’ but I don’t. You can’t. You’re the adult now. You’ll amaze yourself and your partner in the process. You’ll be filled with so much glowing pride, everyone will notice.
- Boredom (along with time and money!) will be a thing of the past. Being a parent opens your eyes to new things and you see the value in everything you do and are. You stand head and shoulders above the old you. You’ve evolved into something you never thought possible. And even though you’re tired; even though the pressure and relentless physical demand never lets up. Even though you’re going grey on top and you’re growing hair where it never grew before – you’re happier than you’ve ever been. Ever!